Ask Ruthie & Connie

If you’re worried about coming out, feeling isolated in a small town or big city with no one to talk to about your issues. Or If you’re teenager being ridiculed or mocked by straight kids, here’s a safe place to share your concerns, get feedback from us and others who have been down this road, and are standing tall to talk to you and tell you it’s OK!

We love helping! We love teaching. We love speaking at events, schools and film festivals; we love running coming out workshops, always answering questions and working together to figure things out.

We’re so happy that now we’re here to help you online. Email us at with your name the way you would like it to appear publicly, and whatever questions you have. We’re right here for you. If your question is answered, it will appear with its response on this page.

We warmly welcome you into our new house, RUTHIE AND CONNIE IN CYBERSPACE.

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