Category Archives: Freedom To Marry

Justice Department to Stop Defending Federal Law on Gay Marriage

It’s about time. let’s keep the calls and e-mails going to congress too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

New York Times: February 23, 2011

WASHINGTON — President Obama, in a major legal policy shift, has directed the Justice Department to stop defending the Defense of Marriage Act — the 1996 law that bars federal recognition of same-sex marriages — against lawsuits challenging it as unconstitutional.

Attorney General Eric H. Holder Jr.sent a letter to Congress on Wednesday saying that the Justice Department will now take the position in court that the act should be struck down as a violation of same-sex couples’ rights to equal protection under the law.

“The president and I have concluded that classifications based on sexual orientation warrant heightened scrutiny and that, as applied to same-sex couples legally married under state law,” a crucial provision of the act is unconstitutional, Mr. Holder wrote.


A great description of the documentary: Ruthie and Connie Every Room In the House

A Letter from a fan!

How does one measure a life? By the courage to take risks? By the insistence on loving?

By the urgency to work for social change? By the devotion to parents, children, friends?

By a faith in the spiritual? By any measure, both Ruthie and Connie, two extraordinary ordinary women are in full stride in such a life.

It is exhilarating to see two Jewish women in their mid-sixties, proud and out lesbians devoted mothers, and grandmothers, loyal friends, teachers without portfolio, because it would be filled to overflowing.

Ruthie and Connie engage in the on-going struggle for equal rights for the L/G/B/T Community, for women, for old people and for Jews. Their urgent passion for justice informs each moment of their lives with ribald humor, tenderness, patient listening and political outrage.

They are a team, indomitable and singular. They became national heroes when they (and two other couples} successfully sued the New York City Board of Education for spousal medical and dental benefits for all New York City employees. And they won!

The film is an intimate, personal story of their lives together and their ultimately successful struggles against convention and homophobia.

Producer, Donald Goldmachner, and a talented production team of women shaped this film. Twice nominated for an Academy Award, producer-director, Deborah Dickson, worked closely with cinematographer, Ferne Pearlstein and editor, Rachel Kittner in making the film. Lynda A. Hansen, marketing strategist and producer, is co-producer; Sandra Butler, author, is co-producer; Sharon Wood is conceptual consultant and grant writer;

Looking to change minds about Homosexuality? Order a DVD for yourself, friends, family, your school, church, synagogue, organization. And — invite Ruthie and Connie to a Q & A.


To the Judges of Prop 8, and those against Equal Marriage for Gays/lesbians

This is a wonderful definition of marriage .We bought a card by Barbara Cage, because it sounded like we have fulfilled this  definition of marriage for 36 years. It’s high time marriage was made legal  for Lesbian and Gay partners. Entitling us to receive the Federal benefits. We have been covering all the responsibilities for 36 years.

A commitment. Its success doesn’t depend on feelings, circumstances, or moods – but two people who are loyal to each other and the vows they took on their wedding day…


Hard work. It means chores, disagreements, misunderstandings, and times when you might not like each other very much. When you work at it together, it can be the greatest blessing in the world.

A relationship where two people must listen, compromise, and respect. It’s a arrangement that requires a multitude of decisions to be made together. Listening , respecting, and compromising go a long way toward keeping and harmony.

A union in which two people learn from their mistakes, accept each others faults and willing adjust behaviors that need to be changed. It’s caring enough about each other to work through disappointing and hurtful times, and believing in the love that brought you together in the first place.


Patience and forgiveness. It’s being open and honest, thoughtful and kind. Marriage means talking things out, making necessary changes, and forgiving each other. It is unconditional love at its most understanding and vulnerable– love that supports, comforts, and is determined to triumph over every challenge and adversity.

Marriage is a partnership of two unique people who bring out the very best in each other and who know that even though they are wonderful as individuals…they are even better together.”

Any and every Gay or lesbian recognizes the above as their responsibility in a marriage. Millions of us have been in committed relationships  waiting, pounding the door  for the Federal government’s marriage benefits. We are demanding the same rights as any couple making  the commitment of marriage. It’s time you stopped the hate that continues to keep us from our full civil rights.

God has nothing to do with it.


There’s Hope After This Election

The results of Tuesday’s election presents us with interesting happenings. Here’s Freedom To Marry’s Evan Wolfson’s take. We hope it gives you a lift.

It’s up to us in the LGBT community and our allies to become pro-active. That means write, call, demonstrate when called upon. Make your personal the political. Some of us may not want to marry. However, we should have the right to choose.  The legal benefits marriage allows are staggering.  Among them, sheer economics. Marriage legitimizes committed love. No one can interfere and grab what is rightfully yours: your money, your property.  Not ever. Not during your lifetime together, not during potential illness, not with the inevitability of life’s end.